A Normal Kinda Girl—Marilyn Monroe

I'm a big fan of the idea that we don't ever really know the deepest depths of any single person's soul. We can have lived with them for our whole life...they can be our significant other, our mother, our father, our best friend—I just don't think anybody can ever claim to truly understand another person. Honestly enough, I believe that if you think you understand a person, you truly don't, and at that point you need to take a step back and stop being so full of yourself. Look in the mirror, because I bet you don't even truly understand yourself, and it's to be said that if you don't understand yourself, you don't understand anybody else.


With all of that said, I want to talk a little bit about one of my idols—that may be a bit strong of a word, so let's talk in heroes. This is one of my heroes:

Yeah, that's Marilyn Monroe.

In her day she was a sex icon. She was beautiful, stunning is a good word for it, actually. A lot of people thought she was a ditz, and a lot of people still do.

I used to not give one half of a rat's ass that she was beautiful. I didn't care who she was—I didn't think she was anything to fawn over—she was just normal to me.  A person that existed who was probably not a great role model for me, but, you know what? I was wrong.

A while back in my search for self appreciation, I came across a quote by Marilyn Monroe:

"I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love.”

It struck a chord in me. This quote was freaking brilliant, and all I could think was: That blonde haired bimbo said that? Hahaha, I laugh at myself now, recalling that thought process. 

I went on to read every single one of Marilyn Monroe's quotes after that, and you know what? They're all just as insightful and amazing as that one. Some examples for you:

"This life is what you make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about."

"It's better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone."

"I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves. They didn't bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn't argue with them. They were obviously loving somebody I wasn't."

and finally...

"When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I'm already better than them."

There are at least fifty more quotes by Ms. Monroe that are just as brilliant. Most people only sprout one cockamamie line per lifetime that's worth quoting.

To me, this says that you can't judge people by the way they look, and I haven't done that for a long time. I especially have been careful of not doing so ever since I figured out just how brilliant, and misunderstood, Marilyn Monroe was. 

Like many people cursed with such brilliance, introversion, and lack of understanding from others,  Marilyn Monroe committed suicide, and it was a great loss to this world. Had she been able to be herself—had the world not expected her to be so perfect and play such a role, she could've taught the world many things. Fortunately, we have her quotes and personal interviews left behind to learn from—to take from the understanding that people are not always what they seem.

She was a beautiful, lonely, but wonderful woman.

Please, I implore you: look around yourself. Please. Stop judging people. They may be just like Marilyn Monroe—they may be someone you'd find yourself spending all of your life and time with if you'd just stop being so blind and ask yourself if they could be different than what you think you've perceived them to be.

Give all of the world a chance, and if they fail it—that's all right. You tried. All you have to do is try, my lovelies, and the world will be a better place for you if you just try hard enough.

Here, I'll leave you today with a picture of who I think Marilyn Monroe really was on the inside. She's not glamorous, but she's still beautiful.

This Has Been,

A Little Lonely Wisdom From Someone,

A Little Lonely

"People had a habit of looking at me as if I were some kind of mirror instead of a person. They didn't see me, they saw their own lewd thoughts, then they white-masked themselves by calling me the lewd one." ~Marilyn Monroe