Afraid of Changing? Don't Be.

 We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivate us to change. Remember, though, that the thing that causes you to live or change doesn't always have to be a bad thing. In fact, it never should be. If we were all perfect beings, we would be able to see ourselves truly, and know automatically when we should do things—without having to make mistakes, and before it is too late to repair the broken lives we have made.


Unfortunately, none of us is perfect, all of us have lives whose windows are slightly cracked, and we will all make mistakes that could have been avoided. Thus, we must learn from them, instead of living in them, or pretending that they don't exist.


Make good choices—move on before the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Also, remember that where you are now, is exactly where you wanted to be in the past. Think about it, it's true. Against all beliefs of fate, we do create our futures. If you sit there in your room playing games all day, or living in fake worlds that exist only in books, and you wonder why you're lonely when you venture into the real world, then you lack logic. No one made you play MMORPGs every night, and no one made you hide, and no one will ever be able to find you living in your little hole—no one you want in your life for very long, anyway.

You create your life, and you are the principal controller of your life. Of course everyone will effect you, and please never underestimate the power of another person's presence in your daily life. After all, a word can change the world if spoken at the right—or wrong—time, and sentences spoken endlessly, every day, will most certainly destroy you if they are the wrong ones. Moral of the story? Do what it takes to overcome your past, go out with your friends (I promise they miss you, and if you have none, they can't find you in your basement), and don't hold onto things that hurt you, no matter what they are.

Sometimes change does have to hurt...but you can make it hurt less often by being aware of your choices and actions.

This Has Been,
~A Little Lonely Wisdom


"I tried to drown my sorrows, but the bastards learned how to swim, and now I am overwhelmed by this decent and good feeling." ~Frida Kahlo